PolarCub75
11-15-2008, 11:54 PM
I've got a question for anybody that can answer it. Can you tell the difference if somebody is interested in you & likes you, or if they are just being nice? Here's why.
See, there is this guy that I work with. We work for the same company, but in different buildings on campus. I really like him. But, he's str8 (or so he says). Anyway, he's been asking me to borrow certain horror DVDs of mine. He'll come over to pick them up. He'll stay for a while & talk. Then, he'll bring them back & we'lll talk some more. He knows I'm gay & I think he knows I like him. Anyway, he called me today to ask me if I had some tape, etc. He told me that he was sorry, but he still had my movies. We got to talking & he asked me when the new Friday the 13th movie was coming out. I told him Friday, February 13, 2009 & he was like, maybe we could get together & go see it. Then, he was like, then we can go out to dinner together either before or after. I don't want to be jumping to conclusions. I mean, I told a couple of people about it today & asked them their opinion. I said that maybe I was reading into it wrong & I was making it out to be something that it wasn't. They told me that I wasn't & that it was EXACTLY what I think it is! I remember this one time, he was over by me. He was with another guy we work with. The other guy was like, "You gotta come & check this girl out. etc." He did. This girl is a knockout! I asked him what he thought & he was like, "She's not my type." Then, he was like, have you ever liked somebody so much it hurts & that you can't get them out of your head, like, you think about them all the time?
I look at it like this. EVERYBODY has a past! You think you know people. People are like, "My man/woman would never or has never done that!" I mean, I know me. First of all, if I am not interested or like somebody in that way, I am not going to go ANYWHERE, one-on-one with them like that . In a group, yes. But, not alone. Especially if I am of the same sex and I know the person likes me! I mean, if you knew somebody felt a certain way about you & you knew it, would you be alone with them? I mean, I've been around str8 guys before. I mean, REAL ones. They talk about women, but not to the extent of somebody who is closeted! It's like, who are you trying to convince me or you? Regular/normal str8 guys don't talk about it half as much as closet cases. That's what I've experienced! Especially if I'm alone with a str8 guy (or so he claims to be). I mean, he'll start commenting on women & talking to me about women. I'm like, is it a threat to his masculinity that he has to let other people know, as well as himself that he's heterosexual? Can you shed some light on this for me because, I don't understand this.
If I was a straight male, I wouldn't be making plans to meet up, get together & hang out with another gay male, one-on-one. Especially, if & when there are feelings involved. You know, it's so funny! I was thinking about this just recently. Like, how cool would it be if we went to go see THAT particular movie together! Like, I saw us going to see it & wanted to go see it with him. Every time I get my hopes up, they always seem to fall. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do. I mean, I think he feels something for me, too. I just don't think he knows what to do, how to go about it, or what to say. I just think sometimes you meet somebody that touches a deep place in your heart. I am talking about on both ends. He feels comfortable around me and talking to me. It's so funny with the timing. I met him one year ago this week. I mean, we so have some things in common as far as movies & television shows go. We share the same interest in horror movies & he told me that he's a big I Love Lucy fan. He's not a fan to the extent that I am, but he's a fan nonetheless. I mean, first & foremost, he's a very nice, kind, sincere person. He's also one of the hottest, if not THE hottest men I've ever seen! I mean, I know I am jumping the gun, but I know that we're not bad for each other. He really thinks I'm funny. He says that I have a great sense of humor. I think he knows & feels that I'm different. Like, I'm not like other guys. He's 24 years old, too. I mean, we've had those "just between us" talks, where he would say, "Don't tell anyone. Be sure to keep it a secret. Between us, etc." And, I gave him my word. So, I think he fels comfortable in that respect. He's a team-lead in one of our departments & he's always commeding me on a job well done. He says that I'm a great worker, etc. I don't know if this means anything or he was just curious, but he's asked me, "So, girls don't do anything for you? They don't turn you on? You don't find them attractive, etc." I mean, I don't think I'm wrong with any of this. As far as my thoughts & feelings go. And, everybody else agreed. I mean, we do have each others phone numbers. It's so funny, when he was over by me that last time, I was like, if there is anything I can do or if I can help you, just let me know. He was like, you have my number, right? LOL I don't know if he forgot or wanted to see if I still had it. Then he walked out the door. HE came back in a few seconds later, asking me if I had seen his keys! I mean, he had them the whole time. He parked right outside the door & this was still summer. He didn't have a coat & he didn't lock them in the car. I mean, looking back, it's started with small things. The things he's said/done. The borrowing of the movies, the talks, etc. When he said that to me on the phone yesterday, it was what I've been wanting to hear from him all along. It was like my wildest fantasy was coming to life. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine him asking me those questions.
See, there is this guy that I work with. We work for the same company, but in different buildings on campus. I really like him. But, he's str8 (or so he says). Anyway, he's been asking me to borrow certain horror DVDs of mine. He'll come over to pick them up. He'll stay for a while & talk. Then, he'll bring them back & we'lll talk some more. He knows I'm gay & I think he knows I like him. Anyway, he called me today to ask me if I had some tape, etc. He told me that he was sorry, but he still had my movies. We got to talking & he asked me when the new Friday the 13th movie was coming out. I told him Friday, February 13, 2009 & he was like, maybe we could get together & go see it. Then, he was like, then we can go out to dinner together either before or after. I don't want to be jumping to conclusions. I mean, I told a couple of people about it today & asked them their opinion. I said that maybe I was reading into it wrong & I was making it out to be something that it wasn't. They told me that I wasn't & that it was EXACTLY what I think it is! I remember this one time, he was over by me. He was with another guy we work with. The other guy was like, "You gotta come & check this girl out. etc." He did. This girl is a knockout! I asked him what he thought & he was like, "She's not my type." Then, he was like, have you ever liked somebody so much it hurts & that you can't get them out of your head, like, you think about them all the time?
I look at it like this. EVERYBODY has a past! You think you know people. People are like, "My man/woman would never or has never done that!" I mean, I know me. First of all, if I am not interested or like somebody in that way, I am not going to go ANYWHERE, one-on-one with them like that . In a group, yes. But, not alone. Especially if I am of the same sex and I know the person likes me! I mean, if you knew somebody felt a certain way about you & you knew it, would you be alone with them? I mean, I've been around str8 guys before. I mean, REAL ones. They talk about women, but not to the extent of somebody who is closeted! It's like, who are you trying to convince me or you? Regular/normal str8 guys don't talk about it half as much as closet cases. That's what I've experienced! Especially if I'm alone with a str8 guy (or so he claims to be). I mean, he'll start commenting on women & talking to me about women. I'm like, is it a threat to his masculinity that he has to let other people know, as well as himself that he's heterosexual? Can you shed some light on this for me because, I don't understand this.
If I was a straight male, I wouldn't be making plans to meet up, get together & hang out with another gay male, one-on-one. Especially, if & when there are feelings involved. You know, it's so funny! I was thinking about this just recently. Like, how cool would it be if we went to go see THAT particular movie together! Like, I saw us going to see it & wanted to go see it with him. Every time I get my hopes up, they always seem to fall. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do. I mean, I think he feels something for me, too. I just don't think he knows what to do, how to go about it, or what to say. I just think sometimes you meet somebody that touches a deep place in your heart. I am talking about on both ends. He feels comfortable around me and talking to me. It's so funny with the timing. I met him one year ago this week. I mean, we so have some things in common as far as movies & television shows go. We share the same interest in horror movies & he told me that he's a big I Love Lucy fan. He's not a fan to the extent that I am, but he's a fan nonetheless. I mean, first & foremost, he's a very nice, kind, sincere person. He's also one of the hottest, if not THE hottest men I've ever seen! I mean, I know I am jumping the gun, but I know that we're not bad for each other. He really thinks I'm funny. He says that I have a great sense of humor. I think he knows & feels that I'm different. Like, I'm not like other guys. He's 24 years old, too. I mean, we've had those "just between us" talks, where he would say, "Don't tell anyone. Be sure to keep it a secret. Between us, etc." And, I gave him my word. So, I think he fels comfortable in that respect. He's a team-lead in one of our departments & he's always commeding me on a job well done. He says that I'm a great worker, etc. I don't know if this means anything or he was just curious, but he's asked me, "So, girls don't do anything for you? They don't turn you on? You don't find them attractive, etc." I mean, I don't think I'm wrong with any of this. As far as my thoughts & feelings go. And, everybody else agreed. I mean, we do have each others phone numbers. It's so funny, when he was over by me that last time, I was like, if there is anything I can do or if I can help you, just let me know. He was like, you have my number, right? LOL I don't know if he forgot or wanted to see if I still had it. Then he walked out the door. HE came back in a few seconds later, asking me if I had seen his keys! I mean, he had them the whole time. He parked right outside the door & this was still summer. He didn't have a coat & he didn't lock them in the car. I mean, looking back, it's started with small things. The things he's said/done. The borrowing of the movies, the talks, etc. When he said that to me on the phone yesterday, it was what I've been wanting to hear from him all along. It was like my wildest fantasy was coming to life. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine him asking me those questions.