drummer
04-21-2009, 10:02 PM
intergenerational hookups just don't happen.
Oh, I dunno. I think I disagree with that one. I had a very exciting and arousing summer fling with a very handsome college student when I was, let me see, I guess I was 47 (and he was 20). He specifically desired an older man, and, when we first got together alone, and I took charge and behaved a bit like a domineering dad kind of figure, ordering him to get down, remove my sneakers and socks and kiss and lick my feet, I remember him telling me later how amazed he was that I knew, without being told, that he had a secret fantasy and wish to be made to lick an older man's feet very subserviently--and I could easily see for myself how deeply aroused it made him, because the evidence of his excitement was poking up as if it wanted to shoot off fireworks.
He enjoyed moaning "Daddy" and I enjoyed hearing it and play-acting the taboo incest fantasy with him, and, aside from the sex, I think he found his time with me rewarding and interesting, and I helped to advise him about some of the courses he was considering taking in college, and introducing him to other things different from what he might enjoy doing (out of bed) with a much younger partner.
I enjoyed his youthful beauty, his naivete about sex with males (up until he met me he had only enjoyed sex with girls, and indeed, had a steady girlfriend at the time, and quite a bit of confusion about how much he enjoyed sex with me)--and he enjoyed my more mature body and I like to think he got something out of spending time talking with me, too.
Anyway, all I'm trying to say is that although I've run into numerous young fellows who think that attractiveness disappears at age 24 or so, there are also lots of young guys who not only tolerate a much older man, but actually prefer and seek such men out--and I rather think that such pairings are quite good for both the older and younger man involved, and that there can be quite a few benefits for each in such a "father-and-son" sort of configuration.
I can never forget how, at one point, the magazine Drummer (which was a very popular sort of S&M magazine at one point, but then lost its nerve somewhat and got less interesting) suddenly ran a feature which they called "Drummer's Daddies," in which they ran photographs of very mature-looking, strong older men. It was as if they struck a nerve, somehow, and a whole "Daddy" cult seemed to capture the erotic imagination of many men. In fact, the use of a term like "Daddy" to describe such age-contrast relations seemed to stem from this feature in that particular issue of Drummer magazine.
Anyway, that's why I disagree with what Boots McGraw said to us about such relationships never happening. I think they may actually happen a bit more than we know, because very often, for many reasons, it may be necessary for such contacts to be carried out in secrecy. In my case, this was certainly true, both because I was a little embarrassed to be courting the attentions of such a young partner, and because he, having a girlfriend, needed to meet me in secret.
Eventually, the liaison had to end, because pressures from his hectic school and work schedule were too great, and also, he was starting to feel quite guilty about deceiving his girlfriend, and needed some space to figure out what he wanted. However, I enjoyed it thoroughly, and I believe he did too, and I think both of us still enjoy pleasant and arousing, exciting memories of our time together.
Given the opportunity, I am quite sure I'd take on another "son" sometime, gladly. Obviously, our young foot-buddy "abcdefg" particularly wants to find a fellow close to his own age, and sometimes we have trouble finding what we think we want, but I think, in general, I've done better by not trying to select a man the way I might order a pizza, selecting particular toppings and specifying exactly how I want it prepared and baked.
I think we do better, instead of setting up a dream figure and then figuring out how some real and available man falls short of it, giving a man who's there and interested and available a chance to interest us, and looking for what's good about him.
I think it gives a man more of a chance of getting lucky if he's more tolerant, no matter how old or young he is.
Oh, I dunno. I think I disagree with that one. I had a very exciting and arousing summer fling with a very handsome college student when I was, let me see, I guess I was 47 (and he was 20). He specifically desired an older man, and, when we first got together alone, and I took charge and behaved a bit like a domineering dad kind of figure, ordering him to get down, remove my sneakers and socks and kiss and lick my feet, I remember him telling me later how amazed he was that I knew, without being told, that he had a secret fantasy and wish to be made to lick an older man's feet very subserviently--and I could easily see for myself how deeply aroused it made him, because the evidence of his excitement was poking up as if it wanted to shoot off fireworks.
He enjoyed moaning "Daddy" and I enjoyed hearing it and play-acting the taboo incest fantasy with him, and, aside from the sex, I think he found his time with me rewarding and interesting, and I helped to advise him about some of the courses he was considering taking in college, and introducing him to other things different from what he might enjoy doing (out of bed) with a much younger partner.
I enjoyed his youthful beauty, his naivete about sex with males (up until he met me he had only enjoyed sex with girls, and indeed, had a steady girlfriend at the time, and quite a bit of confusion about how much he enjoyed sex with me)--and he enjoyed my more mature body and I like to think he got something out of spending time talking with me, too.
Anyway, all I'm trying to say is that although I've run into numerous young fellows who think that attractiveness disappears at age 24 or so, there are also lots of young guys who not only tolerate a much older man, but actually prefer and seek such men out--and I rather think that such pairings are quite good for both the older and younger man involved, and that there can be quite a few benefits for each in such a "father-and-son" sort of configuration.
I can never forget how, at one point, the magazine Drummer (which was a very popular sort of S&M magazine at one point, but then lost its nerve somewhat and got less interesting) suddenly ran a feature which they called "Drummer's Daddies," in which they ran photographs of very mature-looking, strong older men. It was as if they struck a nerve, somehow, and a whole "Daddy" cult seemed to capture the erotic imagination of many men. In fact, the use of a term like "Daddy" to describe such age-contrast relations seemed to stem from this feature in that particular issue of Drummer magazine.
Anyway, that's why I disagree with what Boots McGraw said to us about such relationships never happening. I think they may actually happen a bit more than we know, because very often, for many reasons, it may be necessary for such contacts to be carried out in secrecy. In my case, this was certainly true, both because I was a little embarrassed to be courting the attentions of such a young partner, and because he, having a girlfriend, needed to meet me in secret.
Eventually, the liaison had to end, because pressures from his hectic school and work schedule were too great, and also, he was starting to feel quite guilty about deceiving his girlfriend, and needed some space to figure out what he wanted. However, I enjoyed it thoroughly, and I believe he did too, and I think both of us still enjoy pleasant and arousing, exciting memories of our time together.
Given the opportunity, I am quite sure I'd take on another "son" sometime, gladly. Obviously, our young foot-buddy "abcdefg" particularly wants to find a fellow close to his own age, and sometimes we have trouble finding what we think we want, but I think, in general, I've done better by not trying to select a man the way I might order a pizza, selecting particular toppings and specifying exactly how I want it prepared and baked.
I think we do better, instead of setting up a dream figure and then figuring out how some real and available man falls short of it, giving a man who's there and interested and available a chance to interest us, and looking for what's good about him.
I think it gives a man more of a chance of getting lucky if he's more tolerant, no matter how old or young he is.